Embrace Your Space

Every person has a space on this earth. Yes you have the space that you occupy right now. Maybe you are occupying your couch, work chair, seat in your car or a room in your home. However I am not referring to any of those. I am referring to THAT SPACE that completes your creation, the space that defines why you are here.  A lot of us are still seeking where our space is. How do I know you ask? I know because of the infinite question, Why am I here that trumpets from the mountain tops of many of our lives. So many people are confused with their space. There are a lot of empty spaces waiting for occupancy, but there’s only ONE SPACE for you.

The element that distracts us from discovering that space is comparison.  Comparison is one of the most dangerous roads to take in life. It either leads you in a deep valley or a dead end.

I am a lover of words, their break down and their meaning. My favorite third grade lesson at the private school I attended was stem words.  Stem words breakdown the meaning of words to give you a clearer understanding.  So let’s glance back, to dig a little deeper.

COM- derived from Latin meaning- commemorate, to memorize together, compose or arrange, put parts together live together and own the same things.

PARA/PARI- derived from Greek meaning- parasite, an organism that lives on and off another living being. Alongside and always an equal distance apart. Parallel.

SON- derived from Latin meaning- consonant, a speech sound, sonorous, producing loud, full, rich sounds, AS ONE VOICE.

Comparison is the contrast of distinction. Each one of us has a distinct purpose on this earth. Our distinct purpose is to signify what we are called to and how to supply to those around us.  Whether you believe it or not we are all connected and will affect each other in some way. Our effectiveness is our engine in life. An engine in a car converts fuel to motion. Our effectiveness is our fuel to motion that keeps us moving and active. Think about an area in your life that had no effect. That area drained you. I can recall a job I worked about 3 years ago that made me a lot of money, but I could not detect my effectiveness in it. Where did I contribute? What problems did I solve? Even though the money was good, I was miserable. I felt no worth at that job because I affected little.  Comparison brings about no distinction and mixes everything into one big blur.  When you have blurry vision it’s difficult to identify and hit the right target.

Comparison will always parallel your life with what you relate to the most.   Comparison moves you closer to what you are looking at. If your focus is the way someone you admire dresses. You will skip the qualities of that person and only focus on their dress. Sooner or later you will notice your apparel change and shopping habits differ from what you normally do. You will move away from the distinct person you were created to be. Eventually you will begin to mesh into the idea you have of someone else.  You may be focused on someone’s place of residence, speech or opinion. This will be breeding ground for comparison. You will eventually lose yourself in those ideas. The sign of comparison is chasing things that you would never chase. Chase is the twin of covet. If you find yourself chasing ideas outside of yourself and doing anything possible to obtain them. You are creeping with covet. Covetousness is silent, sneaky and sweet. However covetousness is a thief. You will soon discover that after you’ve obtained what you chased, what you were given in the beginning will be gone.  The next phase in life after this is searching for what you were already given. What you were given in the beginning is the most valuable possession you have.


Comparison will always  cause you to have possession of something that you don't solely own. When you have joint custody of anything you have to compromise. You should never compromise your call, purpose or space on earth.

Another indicator that comparison has crept in is your sound. The things that you say, not only with your mouth but actions, will began to change. Positive moral standards will lower. Clear and healthy views will become skewed. The ones most supportive of you will no longer be of your caliber. You will somehow become a big fish in a little pond. You will feel the need to be an example out loud, instead of just being. These are all red flags that you are going in the wrong direction. Comparison muffles the real YOU. You may find interest, hobbies and things you like along the way while sacrificing the real you. Comparison will confuse your interest for your authenticity. Once this happens, you have made a pit fall in to a huge valley.

The tools to climbing out of that pitfall is embracing the real you. I am taking a class and my instructor stated that hardships, struggle and disappointment will strip you of you. These moments come to steal your identity but you have to take that journey to you again. Furthermore a very influential preacher once said, “Change your question from who am I, to who is He”. I would like to encourage you find you again. How do you find you, when you lost you? Go to the source. The one who made each of us is the one who knows how we look inside and out. He knows the sound he placed inside of us. He knows the true intent of our existence. He also knows the steps we have taken to lose everything. Sometimes losing everything is the best place, because it brings you back to the beginning. The beginning is where you find the purity of your path. A hard reset is sometimes in order.

Comparison is dangerous. It changes your trajectory (path), blurs your vision and muffles your sound (identity). It disregards the supportive people around you, steals your identity and replaces it with false and foreign ideas. I pray you recognize if comparison is lurking, dispel it and EMBRACE YOUR SPACE.


* this is a very transparent post and all of the examples I have used are of my personal walk.